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Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider
The Rules Consultation Corp.
Phone: (212) 388-7910
Fax: (973) 422-0048
E-mail:
consult@therulesbook.com
For subject, please write The Rules Book to avoid e-mails getting deleted as spam. We cannot answer any dating questions that are not submitted via our consultation forms.

By permission of Warner Books, Inc., from "The Rules," c 1995
Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider.

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NEW SEMINAR TAPES!! Two-hour audiotapes and CDs of our June 13, 2005 seminar in New York City: $50 for audio set, $60 for CD set (add $5 for postage and handling within U.S. and $10 overseas), includes testimonials from engaged and married Rules girls, online dating tips, makeover success stories, Q&A, and much more! Tapes and CDs are non-refundable. Click here to buy!

SPECIAL! BUY ANY TWO TAPES OR CD/DVD/VIDEO AND RECEIVE OUR 1997 AUDIOTAPE FOR ONLY $15 (REGULARLY $25) Click here to buy!

Just Do The Rules, A Song by Sherrie Schneider, Ellen Fein and Marilyn Michaels

JUST DO "THE RULES"
An inspirational rap song by Sherrie Schneider, Ellen Fein and Marilyn Michaels.

Download the song here (5MB).


JDate - Where it Happens

RULES CONSULTATION RATES AND SERVICES:

E-MAIL CONSULTATIONS WITH AUTHORS, 100% CONFIDENTIAL AND ENCRYPTED: Consultation: $300 (includes one free follow-up). Quick question: $150.

ONE-HOUR PHONE CONSULTATION......$350
HALF-HOUR PHONE CONSULTATION.....$250
15 MINUTE PHONE CONSULTATION.......$150
Package of eight 45-minute phone consultations..... $1400 a total savings of $700 from hourly rate.
Click here to request a phone consultation

All consultations must be paid for in advance by credit card and are non-refundable.  E-mail: consult@therulesbook.com
We e-mail everyone back within 24-48 hours, including weekends and holidays. If you do not hear back from us within 2 days, please e-mail us and let us know you have not received our response, just in case there is a computer glitch (spam filters etc.).

We offer the following services:

  • An evaluation of your dating history (i.e. rule-breaking patterns) in past and present relationships
  • An analysis of childhood issues that may affect the kind of men (abusive, alcoholic, bad financially, dysfunctional, etc.) that you are attracting
  • How to be a Creature Unlike Any Other (CUAO), i.e. have self-esteem and feel good about yourself, whether or not you are in a relationship
  • Personal shopping and makeovers (see "before and after" photos of clients). Some women don't understand why they are not meeting or attracting the men they want. In some cases, the problem is not The Rules, but their appearance. We offer a total head-to-toe analysis and recommendations for diet, exercise, makeup, hair, clothes, etc. We meet you in New York City or New Jersey and take you for a makeover, and shopping for clothes, bags, shoes, and jewelry so you look sexy and feminine to attract to desirable men. If meeting in person is geographically not possible, we do everything by phone and e-mail... we e-mail you links to clothes or send you catalog tear sheets or buy clothes for you and send them to you. E-mail us at consult@therulesbook.com to sign up! Plus: advice on plastic surgery including nose jobs, breast implants, and liposuction.
  • Where to meet men (including tips for online and video/matchmaking dating services)
  • How to do The Rules at parties, bars, clubs, and singles events, as well as online
  • How to know if you are in a Rules relationship now
  • How to act on dates in the early stages of your relationship
  • How to juggle e-mailing and calling in a relationship
  • How to write an ad and post the best photo if you are doing online dating
  • How to get a man to propose, and if he doesn't, how to move on
  • How to apply The Rules if you are engaged or married and much more!
  • Rules for Work...Contact Career Coach Nancy Friedberg at www.careerleverage.com

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The Rules Dating & Relationship Coaches

WANT TO LEARN THE RULES BETTER AND BE TRAINED TO DO CONSULTATIONS? BECOME A RULES DATING & RELATIONSHIP COACH!
Our 12-week Rules Dating & Relationship Coach Course explains The Rules on a deeper level than our books and seminars. The course consists of 12 online weekly lessons that include how to do e-mail and phone consultations like we do them. It also reinforces and motivates anyone trying to do TR in their own love life. The course is offered all year round. The fee is $1,000 (by credit card) and non-refundable. Students must pass three tests to become Certified Rules Coaches, which will then entitle them to have their contact information posted on our website.
Click here to sign up!

REDUCED RATES WITH CERTIFIED RULES DATING & RELATIONSHIP COACHES.  These women are trained by us.
Click here to see the list of RULES DATING & RELATIONSHIP COACHES.

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Finding it hard to follow The Rules? Not understanding how and why they work? Want more than what's in our books? Take our e-mail course and learn The Rules better! This course is for those just wanting to do TR better themselves, but not to become certified Rules Dating & Relationship Coaches. The 12 weekly e-mail lessons include explanations of some of the harder to understand rules and examples of e-mail and phone consultations. But there are no tests to pass and the course fee is only $600. Sign up now by e-mailing us at consult@therulesbook.com!

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The Rules contact and support group information list is available online here at our website, http://therulesbook.com/contacts.html. If you want to be a Rules contact, no longer want to be a contact, or want to change your e-mail address and/or phone number on the contact listing. Please contact us at consult@therulesbook.com 

For additional support, we also suggest you call/e-mail contacts, join a group or start one, book a phone or e-mail consultation and/or become a Rules Dating & Relationship Coach. When e-mailing Rules contacts, please write "The Rules" in the subject area so that your e-mail is not accidentally deleted as junk mail.

Rules contacts are volunteers and don't always notify us if they move or disconnect/change their telephone number or e-mail address. If you find that a number or e-mail address is incorrect, please notify Ellen and Sherrie so we can update this listing.

We would also like to encourage you to begin to network on your own by calling and e-mailing each other and posting messages on The Rules Boards! RULES BOARD Click Here, Relationship Rules and More Forum Click Here, Shellen, Inc. Forum Click Here, and The Rules Book Yahoo Group Click Here.

Click here to see the list of RULES CONTACTS

Click here to see the list of RULES DATING & RELATIONSHIP COACHES

NEW! FREE! RULES SUPPORT GROUP TELEPHONE MEETINGS:

Tuesday, 9 PM EST & Sunday, 9PM EST. Call Rules Dating/Relationship Coach and Telephone Group Leader Edna M. at (718) 652-4454 or coachedna@yahoo.com for phone bridge number.

Monday, 7PM Central Standard Time. E-mail Telephone Group Leader Hillary hillarygwl@yahoo.com for phone bridge number and information.

Wednesday, 9 PM EST. E-mail Rules Dating/Relationship Coach and Telephone Group Leader Shalisha A. at salston@nyc.rr.com for phone bridge number.

Thursday, 8-9 PM PST. Contact Rules Dating/Relationship Coach and Telephone Group Leader Jenna Taylor at rulesgirls@sbcglobal.net for call access information.

Monday, 7-8 PM ET (Eastern Time). Contact Rules Dating/Relationship Coach and Telephone Group Leader Dr. Dani at (781) 283-0781 for call access information.

*** RULES SUPPORT GROUP IN NEW YORK CITY***
Want to be a part of a "Live" Rules Support Group??? In New York City? Come Join us!
Date: Saturdays
Time: 1:30pm to 3:00pm
Location: 44 E. 32nd St. -- 11th Floor
   Btw Park & Madison Ave (TRS Professional Suites), Near #6 train
Contact: Edna McIntosh -- Rules Dating/Relationship Coach (718) 652-4454.

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How to Become a Rules Dating & Relationship Coach in Japan
by Cathy Amano

E-MAIL Consultations WITH AUTHORS100% CONFIDENTIAL AND ENCRYPTED: It's $300 per consultation, which includes one free follow-up. Click here to go to the e-mail consultation form.

For those who just want to ask a quick question -- for $150 you can e-mail your question to us and we will e-mail the answer back to you! Click here to go to the quick question form page!

You can also send us your question (no more than one page please, including how you met, how long you're dating, rules broken, etc.) with a bank check or money order in the amount of $300, and we will e-mail the answer ASAP. Call (212) 388-7910 or e-mail consult@therulesbook.com for mailing instructions. E-mail consultations are non-refundable. We e-mail everyone back within 24-48 hours, including weekends and holidays. If you do not hear back from us within 2 days, please e-mail us and let us know you have not received our response, just in case there is a computer glitch (spam filters etc.).

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PHONE CONSULTATIONS WITH AUTHORS:
One-hour phone consultation......$350
Half-hour phone consultation......$250
15 minute phone consultation.....$150
Package of eight 45-minute phone consultations..... $1400, a total savings of $700 from hourly rate.

Pay by credit card (much faster!) or e-mail us where to send bank check/money order payable to The Rules, or call (212) 388-7910 to schedule an appointment. All consultations must be paid for in advance by credit card, bank check or money order and are non-refundable. We e-mail everyone back within 24-48 hours, including weekends and holidays. If you do not hear back from us within 2 days, please e-mail us and let us know you have not received our response, just in case there is a computer glitch (spam filters etc.).

Click here to submit a request for phone consultation
or e-mail: consult@therulesbook.com

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The Rules Gift Certificates.  Looking for a perfect birthday, holiday or "no special occasion" gift for a girlfriend? Treat her to a Rules consultation and/or makeover gift certificate! Order a Rules Gift Certificate by clicking here.  Available in $150, $250, $300, $350, $700, and $1400 certificates. No expiration date.


The following products are sold in bookstores, not by us:

All the Rules
, $9.99, now for the first time in one low-priced volume, The Rules and The Rules II. Warner Books.
The Rules for Online Dating, $13.00, capturing the heart of Mr. Right in cyberspace. Pocket Books.
The Rules for Marriage, $7.50, how to be easy to live with. Warner Books.
The Rules, $6.99, covers the basics of catching Mr. Right. Warner Books.
The Rules II, $6.99, covers special situations, including on-line dating. Warner.
The Rules for Marriage audiotape, $18.00, Soundelux Audio Publishing.
The Rules I, II and The Rules for Marriage (England) HARPER COLLINS

The following products are sold by us, not bookstores.
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The Rules Dating Journal  The Rules Dating Journal helps you keep track of your dating behavior (good and bad). Send $25 ($30 if overseas) to The Rules or click here to pay by credit card. (faster!) WHILE SUPPLIES LAST!
The Rules Notecards  The Rules Note Cards ("Love Only Those Who Love You"), blank inside, 2 for $10.
Click here to buy!

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Seminar Tapes On Sale Now!

SPECIAL! BUY ANY TWO TAPES OR CD/DVD/VIDEO AND RECEIVE OUR 1997 AUDIOTAPE FOR ONLY $15 (REGULARLY $25).

Click here to buy!

NEW SEMINAR TAPES!! Two-hour audiotapes and CDs of our June 13, 2005 seminar in New York City: $50 for audio set, $60 for CD set (add $5 for postage and handling within U.S. and $10 overseas), includes testimonials from engaged and married Rules girls, online dating tips, makeover success stories, Q&A, and much more! Tapes and CDs are non-refundable.
Click here to buy!


Two-hour audiotapes of our July 11,2001 seminar in New York City: $50
(add $5 for postage and handling within U.S. and $10 outside of U.S.), includes Rules for Marriage, online dating, Q&A, success stories and more! Tapes are non-refundable.
Click here to buy!

Also, On Sale...While Supplies Last!!
May 2000 audiotapes...only $40 (reduced from $50) includes online dating.
March 1997 video/dvd...$50...includes special situations such as long-distance dating
March 1997 audiotapes...$25 (reduced from $35)...includes long-distance dating.
May 1996 audiotapes ....$20 (reduced from $35)...covers the basics.
Pay by bank check or credit card (faster!). Add $5 for postage and handling within U.S. and $10 outside of U.S. Tapes, cds, videos and dvds are non-refundable.
Click here to buy!
 

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Call (212) 388-7910 or check back on our web site to find out about speaking engagements and media appearances.

 
 
 

WHAT EVERYONE IS SAYING ABOUT THE RULES

"...I fully admit to loving that book The Rules—that's my handbook on how I got married. Dating is nothing but a game. So the advice you get in some magazines, 'Never play games, tell him how you feel, be vulnerable and show your heart’—it's so bogus!" Kimora Lee Simmons, model, fashion designer and wife of hip-hop mogul Russell Simmons, in her new book Fabulosity

"Don't ever call! If he's interested, he'll call...I just finished reading The Rules. That is the best book,"
"I'm old-fashioned. He's got to call. He's gotta open the door and pull 
your chair out," Kelly Rowland, Destiny's Child, CosmoGIRL!

"And if he invited you out, he's got to pay,"
"When you really don't like a guy, they're all over you, and as soon as you act like you like them, they're no longer interested." Beyonce Knowles, Destiny's Child,
CosmoGIRL!

The Rules is not just a book, it’s a movement.” —Time

The Rules is a must-read.” —People

“If you play the dating game, then you'll want The Rules II... the follow-up book to the original dating bible. —American Woman

“There is a certain kind of woman who is given to long tousled hair, sheer black panty hose, and acting maddeningly elusive to every man...She is breezy, confident, and independent, as well as coy, manipulative, and very, very hard to get. She is a Rules Girl.” —New York Times

“Waiting around is certainly not what Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider have in mind. Their message is clear: It’s to the battlefields. Arm yourself and become a full-time Rules Girl! Practice them! Memorize the book! Make him pursue you until you catch him! And live life happily ever after. Amen.” —Detroit News

“A lot of good advice...Friends should read the book together, discuss The Rules and the reasons for them and encourage each other to stick to The Rules. They may laugh at first, but if they follow The Rules, it will take a lot of stress off themselves, allow them to be happier in their lives, and pave the way for a lasting relationship with a man who does the pursuing—and feels rewarded when he catches the woman he adores.” —Baton Rouge Sunday Advocate

“If you’re a single woman trying to keep your own life from becoming a soap opera, then The Rules has something to tell you.” —New Jersey Monthly

“Lighthearted yet earnest…Even if you’re engaged or married, you still need these guidelines.” —Jerusalem Post Literary Supplement

“You caught him, now use The Rules II to get him to say ‘I do.’” —Complete Woman

The Rules are just for dating, right? Wrong. In their new book, The Rules II, Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider address the questions their readers have posed—including...tips on how to make any marriage better, happier, stronger.” —Bridal Guide

“We’re not talking about a business deal here, but getting the man you want to propose and then to turn that proposal into an actual wedding date—it’s a feat some women would say can be tougher than any corporate transaction. Of course, it’s made much easier by doing The Rules.” —Complete Woman

“Empowering...The Rules books can give you control over your dating life.” —Mademoiselle

“Drumroll, please, for single-and-searching females! More help is here in The Rules II, the sequel to The Rules, the runaway New York Times bestseller.” —San Antonio Express-News

 
THE RULES BOOKS IN SPANISH
Como conquistar Marido
Los consejos de nuestras abuelas para casarse con el hombre ideal

Ediciones Martinez Roca
(we have been told it is out of print, but some women have e-mailed us to say they have been able to track it down, notice the different title)
good luck!
 
FYI: "The Rules" is published in 27 languages:
Bulgarian
Chinese
Croatian
Czech
Dutch
English (Australia, Canada, New Zealand, U.K. and U.S.)
Estonian
Finnish
French
German
Greek
Hebrew
Hungarian
Icelandic
Italian
Japanese
Korean
Latvian
Lithuanian
Polish
Portuguese
Romanian
Russian
Spanish (Spain and Latin America)
Swedish
Turkish


Authors' note: We are not licensed to practice psychology, and The Rules is not intended to replace psychological counseling, but is simply a dating philosophy based on our own experiences and those of thousands of women who have contacted us. E&S 

 

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